“Life is beautiful not because of the things we see or do. Life is beautiful because of the people we meet.”– Simon Sinek
Reading and understanding iconic books like Start with Why, Find your why by Simon Sinek, Emotional Intelligence by Travis Bradberry, Talk like TED by Carmine Gallo would go a long way in helping understand the very complex human brain.
Neo cortex is the part of brain that helps us in rational thinking while limbic brain is responsible for emotions. Limbic brain is something we have inherited from the time of apes and neocortex is the more recent or new brain that separates humans from other animals.
Neo cortex helps us perform complex calculations whereas limbic brain can only understand cues or signals.
Gut feelings that we have are from limbic part of the brain.
Within the limbic brain there are three parts that are mention worthy.
Hippocampus is the small part that helps in long term memory.Hence any message to be made memorable must target the hippocampus of the receiver to register for a long time.
Basal Ganglia is the part of the brain that helps in the formation of a habit on the basis of a cue as mentioned in the book Power of Habit.
Amygdala is a small part in limbic part which is responsible for generation of dopamine , the chemical that is released due to self happiness.
Understanding the orientation of the human brain is a key to developing and honing emotional intelligence related skills, which is the backbone to survive and make it big in this knowledge worker age. This when done can help us act smartly in ways to get desired impact in family life as well as professional life and change our day to day life to help us achieve the desired effect.
Pile on motivation!!!!
“If our leaders are to enjoy the trappings of their position in the hierarchy, then we expect them to offer us protection. The problem is, for many of the overpaid leaders, we know that they took the money and perks and didn’t offer protection to their people. In some cases, they even sacrificed their people to protect or boost their own interests. This is what so viscerally offends us. We only accuse them of greed and excess when we feel they have violated the very definition of what it means to be a leader.” – Simon Sinek
“Charisma has nothing to do with energy; it comes from a clarity of WHY. It comes from absolute conviction in an ideal bigger than oneself. Energy, in contrast, comes from a good night’s sleep or lots of caffeine. Energy can excite. But only charisma can inspire. Charisma commands loyalty. Energy does not.” – Simon Sinek
Very recently I had the honor of reading “Leaders Eat Last” by Simon Sinek, the author of the hugely popular “Start with Why”. This book is an amazing read for the simple fact that by means of biology the author has explained how to beat stress in our fast paced lives by sticking to ethics.
Stress as well as happiness stimulating hormones we all would be aware of but the mental mapping of these is something we rarely think of. Had we done the same our actions would have been more often than not directed towards enhancing the flow of happiness stimulating selfless chemicals to beat stress and duress in our stress filled lives.
Stress which is part and parcel of our modern fast paced lives results in a chemical named “Cortisol” flowing through our veins. As against this when we are happy for ourselves(selfish) say for e.g. when we have had a very tiring but fulfilling day in office may be for e.g. by being able to deliver something critical by stretching late in office a selfish happiness stimulating chemical named “Endorphin” flows through our veins. When people try to beat stress by working out extra time in gyms, the same chemical flows through our veins and keeps us happy for the time being.
Any kind of work done by us that gives us an appreciation to satisfy our self-ego(selfish) but which does not give us any sense of belonging results in “Dopamine” flowing through our veins. With the proliferation of social media penetration that “one buzz” in our phones to indicate one more like for our posts on FB or Twitter results in the flow of this selfish happiness stimulating chemical that acts as a quick fix to keep our subconscious mind happy.
When we feel happy and feel a sense of belonging especially when a co-worker thanks us or when we feel happy by doing something for the family/near or dear ones/society and that too ethically it does us the most good by allowing the flow of selfless and happiness stimulating chemicals named “Serotonin(leadership chemical)” and “Oxytocin(fulfillment chemical)” through or veins.
The challenge in life , to beat stress , is not to chase short term quick fix driven “Dopamine happiness” but look to do or achieve something ethically that would give us a sense of belonging and a good night’s sleep by allowing sufficient flow of “Oxytocin” through our veins.
Thus the mathematical equation involving biological chemicals to help us lead a balanced and truly happy life with a sense of belonging is:
(Serotonin + Oxytocin) >>>> Cortisol
With this simple equation in mind let us all pledge to act in ways to fight stress by doing things in our day to day lives that give us a sense of belonging that have far reaching impacts beyond mere self-satisfaction. The other advantage of this would be that since this formula to beat stress is scientifically proven we can form a mental map and preempt our behavior patterns to act in ways that help us achieve selfless truly fulfilling satisfaction rather than meeting our selfish short term goals.
Unleash the flow of selfless chemicals through your veins!!!!!
The following very simple Simon Sinek quote defines the boundary of a true leader.It is not because of rank or position but by choice that one can become a leader and inspire others.
“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” – Simon Sinek
The follow amazing Simon Sinek quote just highlights the difference between the great and not so great companies….
Great companies don’t hire skilled people and motivate them, they hire already motivated people and inspire them. People are either motivated or they are not. Unless you give motivated people something to believe in, something bigger than their job to work toward, they will motivate themselves to find a new job and you’ll be stuck with whoever’s left.– Simon Sinek
Human beings right from the caveman times have always felt a sense of belonging.Human bonds are unique to homo sapiens and separates us from other animals around us.
The need to feel safe in a group is a basic instinct that all human beings have and are attracted by.This is the reason we perform at our best when led by leaders who make us feel safe and in teams where we feel a sense of belonging.The sense of belonging and the fulfillment as a result of the same results in the flow of oxytocin in our veins.
The following great quote crisply amplifies the message mentioned above..
“We are drawn to leaders and organizations that are good at communicating what they believe. Their ability to make us feel like we belong, to make us feel special, safe and not alone is part of what gives them the ability to inspire us.” – Simon Sinek
There are only and only two ways to influence human behavior.Depending on the kind of personality we are we need to choose the corresponding approach.The choice of course is ours..
Please find below an awesome Simon Sinek quote on the same….
“There are only two ways to influence human behavior: you can manipulate it or you can inspire it.” – Simon Sinek
The following great quote of Simon Sinek shows the difference between achievement and success…
“Achievement happens when we pursue and attain what we want. Success comes when we are in clear pursuit of why we want it.” – Simon Sinek